Struggling with self-worth? This episode explores why your value is fixed, how beliefs drive behavior, and where real change begins.
Welcome to This Week’s You Are Destined for Greatness
Welcome to this week's You Are Destined for Greatness. Look, you know, I got a phone call the day before yesterday from a friend of mine. And that friend of mine told me that another friend of mine that I spoke with two weeks ago had passed away. And I was sad to hear it.
Two weeks ago I talked to him and, you know, he was down on himself. Things weren't going well. He was needing money, just got out of rehab. And the more I talked to him, the more I heard how down on himself he was.
When Pain Shapes Our Thoughts and Behavior
And it led me to wonder about all the things that happened to him and what he was thinking. And between the time I talked to him and the two weeks where he passed away. Which, I believe certainly had to do something with the way that he was feeling, the way that he was acting, and the thoughts that he was making the things that were happening mean about himself.
And it got me to thinking about myself and about life and about the way that we value ourselves. And you know, I started thinking about me and the world. And you know, the thing about it is, is the way that we value ourselves, it causes us to do so much stuff we don't want to have happen in our lives.
Overcompensation and the Cost of Low Self-Worth
We over everything. We overeat, we overdrink, we overmedia, we over, over, over, over, over, whatever, and then it gets a terrible result. We're not happy. We treat people that we love not very well. We get defensive. We judge other people. We're confrontational. We have more conflict.
We don't care for understanding. We're less empathetic. We're more self-centered, more selfish. And all those things, why, is an effort to prove to ourselves and the rest of the world that we're damn good enough.
I mean, arrogance, judge people being judgmental, and all the terrible things that we do, and like I did, drinking for decades, trying to feel okay. I just got to wondering, I mean, when is this ever going to end? Maybe never for some of us. Thank goodness.
Your Value Was Never Up for Debate
The thing about it is, is our emotional needs that we're trying to fill, we spend our whole lives trying to chase this down and mess up ourselves and everybody in the process of trying to feel good, trying to prove something that wasn't even up for debate to start with.
And if you can go down my road, what I'm talking about is your value is 100% the whole time anyway. You didn't need to prove to yourself or to anybody else that you're good enough, that you're worthy, that you're deserving, that your value is high enough, that you're not deficient or defective in some way. You're not.
The Declaration of Significance
And I just, I'm declaring war. I'm not even kidding. I came home after, I was shoeing some horses that day when I heard my friend died and I thought all about it and I came home and I wrote the Declaration of Significance.
And what it is, is it's a beginning point. It's making a stand to say enough's enough. I'm going to be okay regardless of what I've done. I'm going to separate the things that I've done and not make them mean things about my value as a human being, as a soul, as a child of God here on earth.
Nothing can change that. Nothing can change my value. Nothing. It's not even up for debate.
A Starting Place for New Beliefs
I recommend you can get a free copy. It'll be available soon on my new website, shanejacob.com. And it's a good reminder. It's a starting place. It's not the end. It's a starting place to say that I am significant and I'm declaring that and nothing is going to change that.
And that's a good place to begin with the beliefs that you have about yourself so that we start getting the better results. This isn't something for people that have a problem with that. Like I've said before, this is for every human being.
You're in a relationship with yourself and you're making meaning about your value right now. And it's going on consistently. It's not something you get done and move on to the next thing.
Living From the Truth of Who You Are
It's something if you give a little attention to and develop a belief about yourself that says you are good enough because you are. You're going to be less of all that stuff. You're going to have less of a need to over, over, over, over, over all those things that you want to get rid of anyway.
And you're going to be less defensive. You're going to be more loving. And when you look at people, you're going to be less judgmental. You're going to accept people more because you accept yourself more. That's the way it is.
Declare war. Get your Declaration of Significance. It's a good reminder. You can read it and say it. I do. And I'm going to keep doing it. And I'm going to keep this war going because you're good enough.
And the fact that you think that you're not for some reason because of something that you did or something that somebody else did or said or whatever, those ideas aren't helping you. And they're not helping the world.
And I want you to have everything that's available in the world. And you can, my friends, because You Are Destined For Greatness.
