What you say to yourself matters more than you think. Discover how internal language drives belief, behavior, and life results.
Introduction: Internal Language Matters
Welcome to this week's You are Destined For Greatness.
A quick little, quick little talk on language, okay? Language meaning our internal language, our thoughts, and our words about ourselves.
Now, what we're saying and thinking about ourselves, extremely important. Our brain's listening, it's making meaning about it, it's helping us and then it determines what we believe about ourselves, and then that's why we're getting the results that we do. Okay.
And some of them we're not liking. We're wondering why. We feel stuck. A lot of time, for a long time, I didn't take this seriously. I didn't think it mattered that much, until it did matter.
And I realized what was stopping me from reaching my goals and having the better relationship and what the problem was over there. And it all had to do with what I believed about me. And a big part of that was my internal language that I didn't think mattered.
It matters. Okay, it matters. I'm telling you, you have to treat yourself and your future like your life depends on it because it does.
Awareness Is the First Step
So, a couple quick, quick tips here. Awareness is key, so what do you want to say? The obvious things like, “Oh, man, I just, I can't go three minutes without doing something wrong,” Or, “I'm such a klutz,” or I'm such an idiot.” Or all that, okay, obviously, you don't want that.
And here's how I measure it. I say, would I want to say that to my kids or my grandkids or my wife? Would I want to say you're such an idiot? You can't go a minute without making a mistake or you're such a, I would not want to say that to them or thinking about them.
So what am I doing thinking about me? It's got to go. That's the measure of how I decide. And that's my suggestion that you do the same.
The Subtle Language That Shapes Belief
Now there's some other language that's a more subtle, okay? All of this is totally accepted in society and in our culture, so you have to be aware of that.
If you find yourself using a lot of negative language around some people, change the conversation or change the people. Trust me, it's going to help all your results in your lifetime.
Some of the more subtle language are things like “should,” okay? I should or I shouldn't have done this and I need to do that, but I didn't.
And when you say that you should, your brain hears, “You should have done that, but you didn't. Therefore, something is wrong with you. You're deficient in some way. You should have done it, but you didn't, so obviously there's a problem here with you and your value and what you deserve and the kind of person you are.”
You don't want that kind of, even that kind of subtle language.
Why Repetition Creates Results
Tell yourself something positive. You're worth it, man. Why wouldn't you? It's so important, okay? And it does matter. All this language matters.
The repetitive language that we tell ourselves is what, one of the highest determining factors of what we come to believe to be true about ourselves. And what we believe to be true about ourselves is the foundation or our behavior.
It's why we're either getting or not getting the things we want in this lifetime. And I know you want to get what you want, and I know you're on the way to get them, too, because you, my friends, are destined for greatness.
